We are all Doctor Moms

Before becoming a mother, I never considered myself a great cook, teacher, safety expert, house cleaner, party planner, or cheerleader for that matter. And yet, during this journey through motherhood, I am certainly all of these things and more to my children. As mothers, this is what we do. We assume various roles under this big umbrella of motherhood. Apparently, it’s all part of the job description that no one told us about.

But, we do it because we are Moms.

And, when our children become sick, get hurt, or face a particular medical issue…we become their Doctor Moms. It’s just what we do.

We kiss boo boos, bandage them up, and sing soothing songs.

We rock, cuddle, and wipe away tears.

We spend sleepless nights at our sick child’s bedside, just watching them breathe.

We are unfazed by the copious amount of nasal discharge or the vomit covering our shirts.

We are Doctor Moms

We painstakingly measure out the correct amount of acetaminophen and double check just to be sure.

We kiss those hot foreheads and can predict the height of their fevers within 0.1 degree of accuracy.

We change soiled pajamas and bedsheets in the middle of the night and then tuck our children back in.

When we should be sleeping, we worry about the “what ifs”. What if it isn’t just a cold? What if that bump/that rash/that cough is something more? What if?

We speak up when we know something is just not right.

We are Doctor Moms

We investigate, research, and become experts on our own children.

We know to trust that nagging feeling.

We wait, always hopeful, for those test results whatever they may be. We digest it, go over it a million times in our heads before deciding on the next step.

We make sure that the decisions made on behalf of our children align with what we know to be true about them.

We are Doctor Moms

We know when to step back and ask for help when we see our child suffering.

But, we never fade into the background.

We are there every step of the way. Armed with our motherly expertise and unconditional love, we are essential in their treatment and healing process.

We are the ones on the front lines. We are the ones who know our children like no one else.

We are Doctor Moms.

I spent this past week caring for my sick 3 year old daughter. Through the sleepless nights, the high fevers, and the constant worrying, I realized that what makes me a Doctor Mom, her Doctor Mom has nothing to do with the M.D. behind my name.

It has everything to do with me simply being her Mom.

Now excuse me while I put on my house cleaner hat and disinfect this place.

29 Responses to We are all Doctor Moms
  1. Leanne
    November 5, 2010 | 5:08 am

    one of your very best posts, I do believe (and that doesn't come easy, because you have a huge amount of "very best posts").

    This one tugged at my heart strings line by line.

    I hope your daughter is feeling better each and every day.

    And I think you are fantastic.

    Hang in there, Mom.

  2. Kristin @ Ellie-Town
    November 5, 2010 | 5:21 am

    I agree, this is one of my faves!

  3. Jennifer
    November 5, 2010 | 5:29 am

    Thank you! Thank you! For validating, as a professional, what all of us moms do. Sometimes I consider going to medical school just so my children's doctors won't look at me condescendingly before they diagnose them with the same concerns I voiced. :-)

  4. My 5 Monkeys(Julie)
    November 5, 2010 | 6:03 am

    hope that she feels better and so true about all of us are doctor moms.

  5. Mandi Miller
    November 5, 2010 | 6:50 am

    This made me smile. Thanks for writing it! I hope your daughter feels better today!

  6. The Planet Pink
    November 5, 2010 | 7:07 am

    Absolutely! I often say I feel like motherhood should come with a MD because that's what I feel like half the time. I had no idea that childhood illnesses (real OR imagined!) could be so all-consuming.

  7. MJ
    November 5, 2010 | 8:58 am

    Awe….Hats off Doctor Mom! I hope the Lil Miss is doing better. Mama must be exhausted:/ Loved this post…WE ARE WOMAN HEAR US ROAR!…:) Love You Sis!~XO

  8. Cheryl D.
    November 5, 2010 | 9:30 am

    Wonderful post as always! I hope your little girl is feeling better. It's the absolute WORST when they're sick!

  9. The Writer's Hat
    November 5, 2010 | 9:43 am

    We certainly do wear plenty of different hats as mothers, don't we? Love your post! I hope everyone is healthy and happy now! xoxo

  10. Mrs.Mayhem
    November 5, 2010 | 12:53 pm

    This is all certainly true, but if I had known how many physical ailments my kids would face, I woould have worked on getting an MD (or at least an RN) behind my name! I think your training must make it a little easier to deal with high fevers without panicking!

  11. Katherine
    November 5, 2010 | 1:51 pm

    This is a beautiful post! I absolutely love it. The strange thing (and maybe it's because I have so little experience with pediatrics) is that the time I feel the most inexperienced and the least qualified is when it's my own kids who are sick.

  12. Flying Giggles and Lollipops
    November 5, 2010 | 8:29 pm

    Wonderful post. I am definitely feeling the doctor mom role right now. Both of my daughters are sick!

  13. Liz
    November 6, 2010 | 5:50 am

    Do you think it's harder to be a Dr. Mom when you are a real life doctor? That you know all the things that COULD happen?

  14. Ameena
    November 6, 2010 | 9:02 am

    This is such a great post! We are all doctor moms…and doctor wives too. Unfortunately. :)

  15. Melinda
    November 6, 2010 | 9:05 am

    I'm so sorry your little one was sick … she is lucky to have you as a mom. Not because you're an M.D. but because of your tender heart and compassion. Those are the two biggest qualifications for any Doctor Mom. ;0)

  16. Michele
    November 6, 2010 | 5:08 pm

    aw, so true. I have been up all night with a sick 4 year old and it is quite a job….. good job mom!

  17. Yuliya
    November 6, 2010 | 8:23 pm

    So sorry your little one has been sick, hope she is doing much better.

    Now let's look again at that line unfazed by nasal discharge or vomit…I am totally FAZED! I might be a Doctor Mom but I do not belong around sick people, icky!

  18. Annette
    November 6, 2010 | 9:28 pm

    What a sweet and yet true post. I could never see myself in the medical field, and yet, I'm there to try to help my little boy's boo boos, fevers, and tummy aches every step of the way. My heart knows what to do and never notices the blood, the snot, etc. Still, when I'm unsure, I'm thankful for real Dr. Moms like you :)

  19. Booyah's Momma
    November 6, 2010 | 10:12 pm

    LOVE this post. What an awesome tribute to motherhood!

  20. Joey @ Big Teeth and Clouds
    November 7, 2010 | 7:26 am

    My mom told me long before I had my daughter that a kiss on the forehead is not just a kiss when you're a mom.

    It's quite true although my daughter seems to prefer our thermometer with its color coded light. She likes to see whether she's green, yellow or red. My kiss lacks the technology.

  21. Mama Hen
    November 7, 2010 | 7:22 pm

    Oh I know how it is being Dr. Mom especially the past couple of months. My poor little one has really had a tough time with this Mono. I hope it starts to get better soon. She is always tired. I hope your little one feels much better soon. This was a great post!

    Mama Hen

  22. Sherri
    November 7, 2010 | 9:50 pm

    You are so right! We wear so many hats, but maybe none more important than the doctor hat when they are sick.

    I hope yours is on the mend, and that the doctor mommy didn't get sick, too!

  23. Eat. Live. Laugh. and sometimes shop!
    November 8, 2010 | 9:18 am

    So true! Hope your little one is back up and running!

  24. MommaKiss
    November 8, 2010 | 11:44 am

    Great post, I totally needed this reminder today :)

  25. Shell
    November 8, 2010 | 4:52 pm

    I hope your little girl is better now!

    Beautifully written post!

  26. adriel, from the mommyhood memos
    November 10, 2010 | 3:07 am

    SUCH a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing. I, too, am learning that I am a Dr Mom… though I have much yet to learn. :)

  27. Grace @ Arms Wide Open
    November 12, 2010 | 7:24 am

    awesome post! that is encouraging to me, as its easy to doubt myself as a mom. you are absolutely right, mommy knows best (usually) when it comes from caring for her sick kiddo.

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  29. Karen
    February 2, 2012 | 7:29 pm

    LOVE this!!! Endearing and so accurate!! Would love to have this on canvas on my wall!!